“When a Muslim woman is born she becomes a reason her father will enter paradise and when she becomes a mother paradise is under her feet.”
This is one of my favourite quotes as it sums up how cherished we are to our families and religion.
The most common misconception I come across especially online is when people assume just because I am a female and Muslim, I am somehow treated badly and terribly oppressed. This is not the case at all, I have never been oppressed in my life nor treated badly (apart from the time my mum refused to let me go out one evening and I was grounded for having a massive strop).
Growing up as mentioned before I was never discouraged to not do anything, the only thing my parents ever said was to be sensible and be safe. I was never told I could not go out, socialise with friends or work. In fact as soon as I was 16 I applied at a small boutique to fund my shopping habit!
So what does the Quran say about women?
Prophet Mohammad (p.b.u.h) said:
“The most perfect in faith amongst believers is he who is best in manners and kindest to his wife” [Abu Dawud]
A women is to be treated as God has endowed her with rights, we have the right to own and dispose of our own property and earnings (you know that saying what’s yours is mine but what’s mine is mine 😀 ). Despite what people make out we have a right to choose our husband, this is something I will address later on in regards to my marriage.
We have the right to be educated and work, the right to inherit from our father, mother and husband. What some people do not realise is what they read and see tend to be situations which have derived from countries where the abuse of power and a corrupt government is in place. This does not mean the religion oppresses women, this means those people who are imposing such restrictions in the first place are in fact oppressing them.
This brings me to the next point, of when people tend to say to me “why don’t you go and live in a Muslim country and live there and see how you are treated”. I love travelling and I have been to many Muslim countries, the main one which I go regularly is Pakistan. This is because I have relatives out there who I try and see when I can.
I will not say when I go Pakistan everything is perfect, it is not. This is largely due to the fact I see so much poverty and this really upsets me. I love seeing the culture, spending time exploring different areas of Pakistan and it is beautiful, something which tends to be overlooked.
My grandfather was a captain in the army and my grandmother was a huge advocate for the girls in my family to be educated. She would make sure each grandchild went to the best school, college and then send them to university. My grandfather would happily support this and in their spare time once my grandfather had retired they spent their time helping out in charities and feeding the poor.
I cannot commend my grandmother enough, she passed away 5 years ago. I was astonished to see the thousands of people who came to her funeral, so many beautiful stories of how she helped people in need and would go above and beyond to anyone that needed her.
I do think if people think us Muslim women are oppressed they should have a coffee with us or spend the day with us, I cannot promise you that you will not be exhausted from all the running around though 😉 .